Wedding Etiquette and Tips

Wedding Invitation Addressing

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Outer Envelope Addressing

Your guests’ names and addresses should be written on the front flap.  The text is usually centered. When addressing your invitations, no abbreviations should be used.  This means both state and street names should be written out.  PO box should be written as Postal Office Box.  The apartment number should still be given when applicable.  It should be written out completely, and a comma such as “Apartment, 251”, should separate the number.

The address of whomever issued the invitations belongs on the back flap.  So the brides’ parents issued the wedding invitations their address is used as the return address.  On wedding invitations, the return address is printed on the back flap to prevent it from looking too commercial.  The return address does not typically include names, but address only.  The return address should also be spelled out using no abbreviations.

Inner Envelope Addressing

If including an inner envelope, the name of your guests is centered on the front of the envelope.  The names of all guests invited to attend should be written, including children.  Only guest titles and surnames are used on the inner envelope.  When writing children’s names, if they are under the age of eighteen, only their first name is written.  Their names appear on a line beneath their parents’ names.

Children

The first names of invited children are to appear under the parents' names. (Invited children over 18 or older still dwelling with their parents should receive separate invitations.) If you are allowing single guests, to bring a date, you would indicate this on the inner envelope by adding "and guest" to their title and surname. If you are using a single envelope, you must put this information on the outside of the single envelope. This is to be done by adding the children's names below the parents' names or the "and guest" line beside the single guest's name.

Married Couple
Inner Envelope

Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Outer Envelope

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

with Children under Eighteen
Inner Envelope

Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Mike and Ashley

Outer Envelope

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

with Daughters over Eighteen at Home
Inner Envelope

The Misses Smith

Outer Envelope

The Misses Smith
or
Miss Ashley Smith
Miss Amber Smith

with Sons under Eighteen at Home
Inner Envelope

The Messrs. Smith

Outer Envelope

The Messrs. Smith
or
Mr. Andrew Smith
Mr. Ryan Smith

with Son and Daughter over Eighteen at Home
Inner Envelope

Miss Smith
Mr. Smith

Outer Envelope

Miss Amber Smith
Mr. Andrew Smith

with Maiden Name Maintained
Inner Envelope

Ms. Briggs
and Mr. Smith

Outer Envelope

Ms. Allison Briggs
and Mr. John Smith

with Doctor
Inner Envelope

Doctor and Mrs. Smith

Outer Envelope

Doctor and Mrs. John Smith

Cohabiting Couple
Inner Envelope

Miss Briggs
Mr. Smith
or
Ms. Briggs
Mr. Smith

Outer Envelope

Miss Allison Briggs
Mr. Alan Smith
or
Ms. Allison Briggs
Mr. Alan Smith

Divorced Woman
Inner Envelope

Mrs. Smith
or
Ms. Smith

Outer Envelope

Mrs. Allison Briggs Smith
or
Ms. Allison Briggs Smith

Using Maiden Name
Inner Envelope

Ms. Briggs

Outer Envelope

Ms. Allison Briggs

Widow
Inner Envelope

Mrs. Smith

Outer Envelope

Mrs. John Smith

Single Woman
Inner Envelope

Miss Briggs
or
Ms. Briggs

Outer Envelope

Miss Allison Briggs
or
Ms. Allison Briggs

with Guest
Inner Envelope

Miss Briggs and escort
or
Miss Briggs and guest
or
Ms. Briggs and escort
or
Ms. Briggs and guest

Outer Envelope

Miss Allison Briggs
or
Ms. Allison Briggs

Single Man
Inner Envelope

Mr. Smith

Outer Envelope

Mr. John Smith

with Guest
Inner Envelope

Mr. Smith and guest

Outer Envelope

Mr. John Smith